You understand exactly why you keep shutting down, or picking the same unavailable person, or watching it fade at month three. Understanding it hasn't changed anything. The pattern lives in your nervous system, and these twelve weeks are where it finally changes.
Join the Waitlist Starts early January · the waitlist is free · members hear first and pay $2,500, before it goes to $3,200It starts the same way every time. The spark, the hope, then the familiar turn. You pull back, or they do. Or you look up months in, in the same dynamic with a different face.
You're not bad at love. Who you're drawn to, and how close you let someone get, was set long before you had a say in it. It's a pattern. And a pattern can change.
You already know your attachment style. You've read the books, taken the quizzes, followed the accounts, and you can explain anxious and avoidant better than some therapists. You understand your patterns better than most people ever will.
And in the moment that counts, none of it changes what you do.
Knowing why you do something and doing something different are two separate skills. Every dating framework teaches the first. This one is built for the second.
The shift you're after lives in your nervous system, not your mind. Here's why: tension and uncertainty are a natural part of the early phases of every relationship. In those moments, access to your wisdom and knowledge is hindered, and your brain defaults to old emotional responses. That's why no amount of reading, podcasts, or knowing your attachment style changes how you show up. It's learned, but never practiced.
These twelve weeks are where you practice new responses, like training a muscle, so when the moment comes you're ready to show up in a way that supports intimacy instead of sabotaging it. Think of it as a dojo of love: a place to practice, with real people, until the new response is yours.
"I came in understanding my patterns well, or so I thought. What the session gave me wasn't more insight, but a specific understanding of the patterns in my dating life that were causing me to repeat the same cycle. Within the hour, I could see exactly where the dynamic was being set, and why everything I'd tried before hadn't reached it. That was worth more than years of the work I'd been doing."
Kelly K., Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist"I expected a thorough conversation. What I got was something closer to a precise read. Anahita identified something in the first twenty minutes that I hadn't been able to articulate after years of therapy. I left knowing something I hadn't known before, which was exactly what I came for."
Joe M., AttorneySix nervous-system patterns shape how we do attraction and intimacy. One of them is yours. Identifying it is only the beginning.
Over twelve weeks together, we go where a single session can't:
This is repatterning, not advice. Real change in the body, and the self-knowledge that makes it hold.
Picture the next time closeness arrives and you don't brace, or bolt, or perform. You stay. You choose. That is what these twelve weeks build.
Limited to 16 seats.
Twelve weeks · starts early January
Day and time confirmed when presale opens
Live with me, working your specific pattern as it shows up in your real dating life. Not a recorded course you watch on your own.
Support between sessions: share your wins, ask your questions, and stay connected to the group all the way through.
A group intensive in Los Angeles where we rebuild your dating profile through the nervous-system lens, so the real you comes through and the right people feel it before you've said a word. Offered to course members as an add-on.
"I've worked with Anahita over several years, most recently around dating and relationship patterns. Even when I understood what was happening intellectually, I kept finding myself in the same dynamics. Working with her helped me see the pattern more clearly and understand what was driving my reactions in real time. Her approach is thoughtful, direct, and never rushed. This is the work where I've experienced the most real change, and I'm deeply grateful for it."
Molly Frier, Founder, Key & Commons"As a licensed therapist, I've seen countless approaches, but Anahita's stands apart. She brings safety, wisdom, and a unique nervous-system focus that transforms conflict into lasting connection."
Greta Grace, Licensed Marriage & Family TherapistThis is for you if:
If you're after hacks, or someone to tell you it's bad luck, this isn't for you. If you're ready for the real thing, it is.
I'm Anahita Anais, a nervous system expert and somatic practitioner. For over a decade I've helped people change the patterns that shape how they love.
And I come to this honestly. I spent the first 43 years of my life mostly single, a self-proclaimed expert at keeping love at arm's length. What we do in this room is what changed that for me.
The next group starts in early January, and enrollment isn't open yet. What's open is the waitlist. It's free, it holds no payment details, and it commits you to nothing.
When enrollment opens, waitlist members hear first and pay the presale rate. People charge more than this for a pre-recorded course you watch alone. This is live, sixteen people, and with me every week for twelve weeks.
I'll write to you first when enrollment opens, with the dates and the presale rate. Nothing else to do for now.
Limited to 16 seats.
Because knowing and doing are two different skills. Tension and uncertainty are a natural part of the early phases of dating, and in those moments access to your wisdom and knowledge is hindered while your brain defaults to old emotional responses. That's why no amount of therapy, podcasts, or knowing your attachment style changes how you show up: it's learned, but never practiced. Here, we practice new responses like training a muscle, so when the moment comes, you're ready.
The group is part of why it works. Relational patterns show up in relationship, in real time. A small, held group is where you can feel yours move and practice something new, with people who get it.
Weekly live calls online, so you can join from anywhere. Twelve weeks, starting early January. The weekly day and time are confirmed when presale opens, and waitlist members hear first.
Nothing at all. It's free, it takes about thirty seconds, and it holds no payment details. It means you hear first when enrollment opens, and that you pay the presale rate. You can leave the list any time.
The group starts in early January, and I open enrollment to the waitlist first. The people who have been with me the longest get the first seats and the better rate.
One live group call a week, plus whatever you bring into your own life between sessions. That's where the change happens.
This time, the pattern underneath changes.
Twelve weeks, live and small, starting early January. The waitlist is free, and it's where the first seats go.