You understand exactly why you keep shutting down, or picking the same unavailable person, or watching it fade at month three. Understanding it hasn't changed anything. The pattern lives in your nervous system, and these twelve weeks are where it finally changes.
Secure Your Seat $2,900 in full, or 3 monthly payments of $1,100 · early-bird rate ends September 4 · starts September 23It starts the same way every time. The spark, the hope, then the familiar turn. You pull back, or they do. Or you look up months in, in the same dynamic with a different face.
You're not bad at love. Who you're drawn to, and how close you let someone get, was set long before you had a say in it. It's a pattern. And a pattern can change.
You already know your attachment style. You've read the books, taken the quizzes, followed the accounts, and you can explain anxious and avoidant better than some therapists. You understand your patterns better than most people ever will.
And in the moment that counts, none of it changes what you do.
Knowing why you do something and doing something different are two separate skills. Every dating framework teaches the first. This one is built for the second.
The shift you're after lives in your nervous system, not your mind. That's why dating advice fails. The moment tension rises, your body reaches for the same response it always has. Insight never reaches that layer. This does.
"I came in understanding my patterns well, or so I thought. What the session gave me wasn't more insight, but a specific understanding of the patterns in my dating life that were causing me to repeat the same cycle. Within the hour, I could see exactly where the dynamic was being set, and why everything I'd tried before hadn't reached it. That was worth more than years of the work I'd been doing."
Kelly K., Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist"I expected a thorough conversation. What I got was something closer to a precise read. Anahita identified something in the first twenty minutes that I hadn't been able to articulate after years of therapy. I left knowing something I hadn't known before, which was exactly what I came for."
Joe M., AttorneySix nervous-system patterns shape how we do attraction and intimacy. One of them is yours. Identifying it is only the beginning.
Over twelve weeks together, we go where a single session can't:
This is repatterning, not advice. Real change in the body, and the self-knowledge that makes it hold.
Picture the next time closeness arrives and you don't brace, or bolt, or perform. You stay. You choose. That is what these twelve weeks build.
Limited to 16 seats.
Wednesdays, 5:30–6:30pm PST
Twelve weeks · starts September 23
Live with me, working your specific pattern as it shows up in your real dating life. Not a recorded course you watch on your own.
Support between sessions: share your wins, ask your questions, and stay connected to the group all the way through.
A group intensive in Los Angeles where we rebuild your dating profile through the nervous-system lens, so the real you comes through and the right people feel it before you've said a word. Free when you join during a live workshop.
"I've worked with Anahita over several years, most recently around dating and relationship patterns. Even when I understood what was happening intellectually, I kept finding myself in the same dynamics. Working with her helped me see the pattern more clearly and understand what was driving my reactions in real time. Her approach is thoughtful, direct, and never rushed. This is the work where I've experienced the most real change, and I'm deeply grateful for it."
Molly Frier, Founder, Key & Commons"As a licensed therapist, I've seen countless approaches, but Anahita's stands apart. She brings safety, wisdom, and a unique nervous-system focus that transforms conflict into lasting connection."
Greta Grace, Licensed Marriage & Family TherapistThis is for you if:
If you're after hacks, or someone to tell you it's bad luck, this isn't for you. If you're ready for the real thing, it is.
I'm Anahita Anais, a nervous system expert and somatic practitioner. For over a decade I've helped people change the patterns that shape how they love.
And I come to this honestly. I spent the first 43 years of my life mostly single, a self-proclaimed expert at keeping love at arm's length. What we do in this room is what changed that for me.
People charge more than this for a pre-recorded course you watch alone. This is live, intimate (16 seats), and with me every week for twelve weeks. The price only goes up from here.
Reserve your seat at $2,900. Choose below.
The pattern doesn't pause while you decide. Another year of the same turn costs more than the gap between these rates.
Limited to 16 seats, so all enrollments are final and non-refundable.
Because therapy works on understanding, and this works on your nervous system, where the pattern actually lives. That's what the people above are describing: they understood their patterns and still repeated them, until it reached the level underneath their understanding.
The group is part of why it works. Relational patterns show up in relationship, in real time. A small, held group is where you can feel yours move and practice something new, with people who get it.
Weekly live calls online, so you can join from anywhere. We meet Wednesdays, 5:30–6:30pm PST. Twelve weeks, starting September 23.
One live group call a week, plus whatever you bring into your own life between sessions. That's where the change actually happens.
This time, the pattern underneath changes.
$2,900 in full, or 3 monthly payments of $1,100 · early-bird rate ends September 4 · starts September 23